Spare the Rod,Spare the Rod范文

In some old fashioned traditions, there is a saying, "spare the rod, spoil the child," which is worshipped by dictatorial parents and has long been a polite excuse for cruel body punishment. As to my opinion, it is not right and nor reasonable.
First, let us focus on the victim; the children. No matter what wrong they have done, they are still children, children who are characterized by their vague concept of good or evil, by their little knowledge of what to do or not, by their straightforward desire for others' love and care. They live in the pristine world of their heart. Such mistakes that appear intolerable to parents may be their first step to discover nature or their initial attempt to communicate with people. But what await them is only severe punishment, which breaks their heart, destroys their trust,roughs their temper, makes them conservative, and successfully leads them to build a wall to protect themselves while isolate from the world. This is no kidding. The famous psychiatrist Dr Freud, who is a master in studying the effect of early age experience on later life, proves that childhood experience makes both superficial and underlying significance in one's lifetime. And statistics also show that adult or adolescence violence has something to do with early life circumstance. A child living in an environment of violence will be doomed to become violent.
In contrast, love is what children need first and foremost.Kind words, gentle smile, sincere praise, proper encouragement, all these elements contribute to the formation of fine character and optimistic attitude. Please spare the rod.
Secondly, let us concentrate on the performer; the parents.Before our discussion, we can safely ignore the irrational parents. This sort of parents beat children because of their own distorted mentality stemming from their miserable life or abnormalgenes. Or theybeat them just for fun! The rational parents, unlikely, are in strong hopes to see their children superior to othgenes. Or theybeat them just for fun! The rational parents, unlikely, are in strong hopes to see their children superior to others. Thus, they apply discipline, which radically turns to riolence, meanwhile their hearts are bleeding. "We love our children so we beat them." These parents say, in order to persuade themselves rather than persuade others to accept their way of education. But a scream rises higher and higher from their heart saying, beating our child is no better than beating ourselves, yet what should we do to prevent their falling in pits, to protect them from drugs, street gangs, pornography without beating them? But I wonder, does beating work? It is not a remedy, but a poison. Under such pressure, children easily rebel and betray themselves. Their parents' action in the pursuit of gratitude and love from their children only calls for hatred. This is a lose lose solution undoubtedly. Please spare the rod.
After all, it comes to a problem of how to educate children.Instead of using rod, love could be a better solution, which works better, harms less, as I've mentioned before. Make good use of it, the children no longer need to feel bitter, the parents no longer need to reproach themselves, and the society will be more harmonic.